Yesterday, it was 90 degrees. Today, it is above 80. And I live in Arkansas. It’s humid, sweaty, and gross.
And it seems like everywhere I look, people are talking about modesty. Is it okay to wear this? What does modesty really mean? Are bikinis immodest? What should I wear/not wear when it is so hot outside?
But I’m not going to talk about that. I’m not going to bash bikinis and other swim suits, and I’m not going to ever going to be one of those people who tell girls that they shouldn’t wear sleeveless tops or shorts. Instead, I am going to focus on the big picture.
Here are 3 lies and 1 really big truth about modesty.
LIE #1: You should cover your body because it is a disgusting sexual temptation.
You’re probably wondering where I’m getting this. Have you ever been to a talk about modesty? Or read about it? For girls, there is always a big emphasis on modesty (don’t worry I will get to that), and one of the things I always heard was, “You should cover yourself because you don’t want to cause your brother in Christ to stumble.” Don’t get me wrong; as Christians, we should never do anything to cause our brothers and sisters to stumble. However, I think sometimes it is over emphasized during these talks as the main reason for girls to be modest. When this happens, it teaches girls that their bodies are disgusting and meant only for the sexual gratification of a man. Teaching girls to be ashamed of their bodies is not only dangerous, but it is also unbiblical. Scripture teaches us that we are created in the image of God Almighty. David rejoices and calls on praise to God because of how he was created.
I will praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made.– Psalm 139:14
I’m not saying we should go around wearing whatever we want. I’m not saying, “If you got it, flaunt it,” as the world says. This mentality is also really unbiblical. However, I don’t think the emphasis should be on other people. It’s much bigger than that. We don’t dress conservatively because we are ashamed of our bodies. We dress modestly because of our Savior. More on that later.
Lie #2: Modesty is only for girls.
Again, you’re probably thinking: Krystal, where are you getting this? In high school, as much as I loved my school, there was always an emphasis on girls keeping the dress code. They always made sure that our shoulders were covered and our skinny jeans weren’t too tight. My school had a dress code against muscle shirts, and all the time I would see guys breaking this rule, but did they ever get called to the office? I’m very pro-dress code and I understand why there are rules about what you can and cannot wear to school or another professional setting, but I would always wonder why the rules for guys weren’t enforced like the girls? Like I’ve already mentioned, girls are always the prime focus for modesty talks. Why is this? The Bible doesn’t say, “Only girls should dress modestly.” And if you tell girls that they should dress modestly because we don’t want our brothers to stumble, what about the other way around? This shouldn’t be a double standard in the church. Modesty is for BOTH woman and men. Parents, please teach both your sons and your daughters about modesty. Children and student pastors, emphasize modesty to both the girls and the guys in your youth group. A simple application: if you require the girls to wear a t-shirt over their bathing suits at the pool, also require this of your guys.
Lie #3: Modesty is only about what you wear.
I have always believed that modesty isn’t just about what you wear, but a lifestyle. You should be modest in the way you dress and the way you act. This includes the way we talk to people and what we post on social media. So many times I see self-proclaiming Christians who post outrageous things on social media. I’m not saying we should always post Bible verses and pictures of us going to church (because some people who do that aren’t Christian either), but our lives should always be a testimony of the gospel. When the world sees us, they should see Christ.
Big Truth: Jesus.
Don’t you know that your body is a sanctuary of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore, glorify God in your body. — 1 Corinthians 6:19-20
We were bought with a price. A very high price: the Son of Man. At the cross, Jesus Christ gave up his life for us. As Christians, we have the Holy Spirit dwelling within us, and our bodies are no longer ours, but His. This is the big truth. This is the reason we dress modestly. Not because it’s a girl thing or because we are ashamed of the wonderful way God made us, but because of God’s Son. Because of Jesus, we were made holy and righteous, and our outward appearance must be a manifestation of what God has done to our hearts. What we wear and what we do with our bodies should reflect our Savior who died for it.
Thank you so much for reading!! Let me know what you think in the comments below! Happy summer!